"You, then, why do you judge your brother or sister? Or why do you treat them with contempt? For we will all stand before God’s judgment seat. It is written: “ ‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord, ‘every knee will bow before me; every tongue will acknowledge God.’ ” So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God" (Romans, 14:10-12 NIV).
Before you get too far into this, let's be clear. When the Bible says "Judge not...," it doesn't mean what it is many times misinterpreted to mean. "Your're judging me" is generally a statement used by someone who knows they're wrong and just doesn't like that it is being pointed out. The Bible does call us to observe, evaluate, and to assess a situation so that we can respond in a manner that honors God.
With that being said, "Stop judging people!" Huh?? I can only imagine the confusion at this point. No worries. Let's simplify. One big reason people sometimes do feel judged or overly analyzed, is because the amount of attention that you might be placing on them seems misplaced to them. "If you spent half as much time on dealing with you as you spend focused on me, we might get out of this conflict a lot sooner." When your fingers are more concentrated on pointing out the faults in another person, are you really able to see what God is trying to reveal in you? Or, is focusing on the faults of another a way of coping and avoiding dealing with the responsibility of your own?
Spend more time allowing Holy Spirit to reveal your faults to work through rather than pointing out the faults of others. Yes, this does mean releasing the conflict to God and not being in control of how it goes. As long as you hold onto it, God will not resolve it. Resolution cannot be accomplished without surrender. Focus on letting God work IN YOU. Let the Holy Spirit speak to others by how they see HIS change through you. You will become more of who He has designed you to be and you will be more of what others need you to be. True nexus is strong when we focus on Jesus as the answer than trying to insert ourselves as the answer. Let Him focus His truth and grace in you.