"Deliver me from enemies , O God; be my fortress against those who are attacking me" (Psalm 59:1, NIV).
Let's face it. There are times when you are faced with a situation and you are challenged by someone who speaks as though they know everything, but it becomes obvious that they know nothing about the situation in which they speak. When that situation involves your integrity or your intentions, and the challenge comes harshly, it can be very easy to become and want to respond defensively.
David was no stranger to similar situations. He was hunted down on more than one occasion as though he was prized game by an insecure king who was set on David's elimination. David, like any one of us, certainly struggled with the feelings of wanting to defend himself. In fact, we know, at least on one occasion when in cave and Saul was sleeping, that David strategically inched closer to Saul and cut off a section of his cloak, showing how he could have killed him, but proving and defending his own innocence. He immediately felt remorse for touching the anointed of God. David had to see GOD has his defender. Becoming defensive and focusing on proving his own innocence would have meant taking his eyes off of the One who had breathed purpose into his life. Rather than focusing on the one who sought to destroy him, David chose to focus on the one who would deliver him.
There are those who will come against you. There will be those who speak quickly and challenge you. At times, your intentions, integrity, and motivation will not only be challenged, but falsley assumed as less than you know to be true. Becoming defensive will only had fuel to the fire. Know that those who are quick to accuse are generally those who are in a fight with their own insecurities. They thrive on having the upper hand and putting others on the defensive. Don't fall into the trap. Trust that God has your back. Seek Him. Worship Him. Keep your eyes on the One who delivers you, not those that can destroy you. Be secure in who God is and in who you are because of Him. Choosing to become defensive is choosing to trust in yourself more than trusting in God. Lean on the ONE who is your defense.