"For as churching the milk produces butter, and as twisting the nose produces blood, so stirring up anger produces strife" (Proverbs 30:33).
I love reactions! There's such an excitement in seeing "cause and effect"! For instance, you place a tablespoon of baking soda in a cup of vinegar and instant volcano! My favorite, is to take Mentos and put them in a diet coke. Watch out...explosion is inevitable!
It's all about cause and effect. If this happens, then that will be the result. All three of these instances in this proverb have to do with force and pressure. These words form the cause and that cause will always produce an effect. So, when people continue to push the buttons of other's emotions, and there is a reaction of strife and controversy, there should be no surprise.
We need to not just be more aware, but more apt to apply this awareness. It's not to difficult to tell when a discussion is getting a bit heated. Instead of going in for the "win," we should, rather, let up on the pressure and stop forcing those "buttons" down. A gentile answer is still capable of turning away wrath.
Just as twisting noses, churning milk, and playing with Mentos and Diet Coke will always produce a noticeable and inevitable result that should never come as a great shock, so it is when we stir up anger; when we continue an argument when "reason" has ceased to exist.
Here is a prayer that I find myself praying often. Maybe it's a prayer that you can pray with me, and together we will see less strife and more peace overwhelming the relationships in our lives: "Father God, I need Your guidance and Your strength. Help me to use holy restraint in keeping my mouth shut instead of bracing for cause and effect. Help me to purpose every word that comes out of my mouth to be that which honors You. I want to enjoy a "cause and effect" that involves peace, calm, joy, love, and grace. In Jesus name, amen!