"My son, if your heart is wise, then my heart will be glad indeed; my inmost being will rejoice when your lips speak what is right" (Proverbs 23:15-16).
When I was younger growing up, I found myself learning a vice, not a very good one, but one that I have seen learned by even my own children. I'm sure you've seen it and quite possible, and this I'm sure, even lived it at one time or another. That flawed vice is learning how to say the "right" things at the right time, even if it's not in your heart. I learned how to say "sorry" if that would bring a quicker end to what ever situation I had gotten myself into. It wasn't in my heart, but it sounded "right."
To please the Father should be the ultimate goal. Not by just "doing" the right things, but by "being" right. If we grab hold of wisdom in our heart - the very core of who we are - it will be evident all thought our lives. By being right, we do right, and THAT causes God to be glad and rejoice at the very core of His divine existence.
Not growing up with a father, I remember an evening in college, while living with a family that became a very intimate part of my life. The dad, who I would later refer to as "Dad," once told me that he was disappointed in me. It cut me to the core. He was right. I had made some choices that were wrong and he knew I could be better. I wanted to make him glad. I couldn't just say the right things. I needed to be right. But in being right, I did right. It wasn't so much about earning his approval as it was the joy in his heart when I realized the changes that needed to be made in my life.
Perhaps you, like me, would want this to be your life's cry each day: "Father God, I want to be right in your eyes, do right in your eyes, and make You rejoice at the core of who You are! Give me the wisdom to know what to do, and the strength to follow through and do it!"