"The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit" (Proverbs 15:4).
Let me just begin by saying that if sarcasm was a spiritual gift, then I have been blessed with a great anointing!! Unfortunately, you won't find that one listed anywhere in the scriptures. My mouth is one of those things where my greatest strength can also be my greatest weakness. I'm pretty convinced that I'm not the only one that applies to.
Most people don't truly grasp the responsibility we have to each other with the words we choose to speak. Words have power - power to heal and power to destroy. Our words and our tones actually serve as a window into our hearts. When we speak words of refreshing, words aimed at lovingly restoring and encouraging, then we are in a sense being used as God intended in His perfect plan - the Tree of Life.
Solomon also uses the word "perverse," which means to distort, one given to much arguing or refuting, that this, in fact, is not done out of love, but results in crushing and destroying. It gives the picture of knocking the breath out of someone.
I want my words to bring life and healing. Even when I need to bring correction to someone, I can do so in a way that leads to restoration. I don't want to be a spirit-crusher. I want my words to reflect the words of Jesus, which were always spoken to give life.
Let God use your mouth has an opportunity to speak LIFE into someone today. You don't have to patronize, but allow the love and the grace of God to season every word that is purposed out of your heart and through your mouth. Sometimes we have to take an extra breath, but it's worth it in the end.